Nope, you are certainly not the only person to be suffering from that problem, in fact, it's one of the most common problems that is encountered!
However, as ParaBrat said, this thread is simply here for informational purposes and the thread it was meant for has been moved to
here. Read over that thread before posting as many issues have been covered. Also click on the links ParaBrat provided in her first thread for further information.
As for IdentD problems, you may like to see
this thread.
With both of the above it is suggested that you use the
Search feature and search for things such as "DCC send" or "Ident" - Expand to 'All Forums' and expand the date range to 'All Posts' for best results. So many people have posted on both issues, it's likely you'll find something!
Happy chatting
Regards,