I'm one of the admins from the server in question - I suggested lothloriendiva come here after I couldn't solve this issue.
TORnIRC is essentially a mildly customised mirc we offer for our users. I have a copy installed on my own system (for test purposes) - in addition to the normal plain-vanilla mirc that I use on a day-to-day basis.
Now, the interesting thing is that the notify list works fine for myself on my installed version of TORnIRC.
I have - using screenshots to illustrate - tried to ensure that lothloriendiva has the appropriate boxes ticked on the notify tab.
My knowledge of the innards of mirc is good, but i wasn't responsible for the customisation - and that person is not presently available. What file/s should I be examining to see what might or might not be amiss with this thing?
If you want to take a peek, TORnIRC is here - http://www.theonering.net/barlimans/tornirc.html
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