well someone can send me a file,and i have sent someone a file successfully. but when they type my /ctcp for the server it just sits there and won;t connect. other then that i'm not sure what to do,
Firewall/router settings very rarely affect your ability to receive files. Your answer about "have sent" files doesn't make it clear whether you're talking about being able to send before, or being able to send now. It's a big indicator of the problem whether or not you can still send files without using passive-send.
