i think i figured it out, after i typed my last post i lost my connection again and decided to try and figure out what was going on. turns out windows firewall was blocking my connection eventhough i have it set up to allow connections from mirc.

my prev setup used zonealarm but i figured i would give windows firewall a try this time since zonealarm takes forever to load. in any event so far disabling windows firewall seems to work.

if things change ill leave another post.