For some reason i cannot send or recieve querys. It has been doing this for a while now and i cant figure out why. Any suggestions?

Before doing anything else, check your Ignore list and make sure you didn't manage to ignore *!*@* for queries. Then, try installing mIRC from here without any scripts and see if it works.

nope noting. i have no idea why it is doing this o.O

What network is this on? Some networks require you to be registered to send/receive private messages. Other networks have server side ignore that you might have enabled.

its Exilet. the problem is that i have used it before on the server countless times and had no trouble.

Googling "Exilet irc" pulls up this thread, so I'm guessing you either spelled it wrong or it's a private network, you'll have to provide a server or website. Also, just because you've used the server countless times does not mean they did not make policy/configuration changes, so that doesn't mean much.

its not the server. i tryed it on 3 diffrent servers. including irc.mibbit.com. Now i can send pms but i still dont recieve them.
By the way i did spell that wrong my bad. it was irc.exilenet.org

Go to:
1) Options
2) Other
3) Lock
4) Look at the box that says 'disable'
5) in that box it has the option 'chat/query'... If that box is ticked, click on it once and when the tick is gone press 'ok'...

That is the only thing I can suggest, other than that I wouldn't know why it is not functioning properly