my problem is when i try to connect 2 a server is cant get connected and all my settings are the same as a frend of mine and he can get on the server and i dont.
what can i do about it?

Without knowing the exact error message you are getting, its hard to help. One suggestion, have your friend /dns the server and then you try connecting to the ip rather than the domain. (like /server 123.123.123.123 instead of /server blah.blah.blah.blah) or try other servers for that network. You might want to read thru the Unable to connect thread

Connection Refused usualy means you spelled the server wrong or the port your trying to use isnt correct

I have had similar problems using MIRC recently after upgrading to SP2 and norton antivirus 2005.

Disabling Norton Antivirus solved the problem for me
and I got connected.

funny norton 05 sp2 no problems