OK how do i get unbanned... i got banned for being a chik and got my bf banned too.... Im kinda new so

Unfortunately we are not able to help you with this problem due to the fact that channel operators can do whatever they want in their channel(s) for what ever reasons. The only thing that I can suggest is talk to either the person(s) that run that channel i.e. the channel founder or channel operators about resolving your situation. Or else you can create your own channel or join a new channel be it on the same network or not.

Go to the channel #OperHelp and ask for Spoof
When you got the spoof join to the channel that you banned

The directions you gave, snake, doesn't always appy to all networks. Some networks have a channel called #help, #oper, #oppserhelp (As you've mentioned) as well as many others. The best thing you can do is message an opertor on the channel you were banned from, kneel down on one knee, and beg to let you back in. Unless its a non-private channel (doesn't have any relation to the network) you can't do much about it.

Also even networks that have those channels will often just tell you "ops can kick/ban for whatever reason they want"