Depends on the network, but where I chat, typing /chanserv aop #channel add <nick> would work. Providing you have SOp or are the channel founder, of course.
Never compare yourself to others - they're more screwed up than you think.
That command didnt work i dont think, how long will it take to register? Is there anywhere i can get a bot from who stays op'd in my channel and ops me when i join?
It didn't work because EFNet doesn't have Services. You need to run a bot to do this, either a mIRC bot hosted by yourself if you have a 24/7 connection or an eggdrop from a shell account if you don't.