The problem was that i was loading the icons from a alias, i needed to add the first icon in the init section, so problem solved..
i tested with dcx, but since i couldent find any tutorial that explain about the use of icons in the dialog "as i using icons in control panel", then i gave up since i have no clue on how dcx works.. and dont say in the same way as mdx, it dont
as a side note.
I belive many users here using mdx, or have been using it befor. Look at scripts on the net, they often use mdx or dcx, and zantetsuken pointed me at the right direction, then i could figure out the rest by my self..