its a socket connection to a server, im opening up a localhost socket for the clientside
If I understand you correctly, then you shouldn't be listening for
incoming connections, you should be using /sockopen for an
outgoing connection. /server is for connecting to an IRC server only. Did you follow any of my advice?
You are also not specifing a port with /socklisten, perhaps you should read the help file regarding socket usage... /help sockets