I hate to do this to you, but as Russel usually says it best. "This is not a firesharing client". he is right, and no this has nothing to do with DCC it actually has to do with the server being run. This is not a question that should be on mIRC boards.
And no, you probably won't stay in line. Most good servers terminate the position in the queue when the connection is server. No way of really regaining that link if the client is gone now is there.
Ask the host of the server, and for the sake of the kittens, stop downloading pirated content.